As with most sex work, webcamming doesn’t have the best reputation. It’s often seen as exploitation or a last-resort hustle to settle debt, but Reed Amber, 26, explains how webcam models are merely your average self-employed freelancers with similar amount of agency and independence as anyone else.
Model, producer and co-creator of YouTube channel ComeCurious, Reed is basically the physical embodiment of sex positivity, which she defines as “trying to make people think that what they’re doing as well as what they’re into isn’t wrong, it’s normal and it’s absolutely fine.” She’s a massive advocate for removing stigma and taboos around sex, so we trapped along with her for more information on webcamming, a distinct sex work that is seldom talked about.
How come you think that some men, and possibly women also, prefer it to porn?
“There’s a lot free porn that we feel webcamming is a bit more of an personal one-on-one. You are able to go surfing and locate any ol’ stuff, but webcamming is a bit more personal; it’s tailored exactly as to the you desire along with what you’re seeking. You’re not sharing it with 100 thousand others. This is your show. Most of the time you raise your relationship, I speak with you as being a friend i respect you being a person. ‘How has your day been, what do you achieve with a home shops, precisely what are you cooking for dinner…’ it’s like an online relationship”
…So it’s a lot like the ‘girlfriend experience’?
“Yes, it’s like the girlfriend experience. But that also is dependent upon what the webcam model is a lot like and also just what the person paying is similar to because people want something different.”
Have you had say no to a request?
“I’m definitely one with the cam girls who’d seldom decline. I’ve always aspired to try interesting things, but that’s not because I felt like I had to. It’s just personally what I need to do. I must tick stuff off my list, I must fit everything in once especially when you are looking at sex positivity. Even if it’s something I’m not necessarily into, I’d still try it. Basically didn’t enjoy it, I’d resemble ‘sorry, I’m certainly not into that.’ But there’s a number of people that would avoid a lot of things.”
Cautious really common requests that you will get?
“It is determined by the profile that you just set up because if you come up with a profile, you are writing just a little bio with regards to you, and read could possibly be seen as a somewhat more ‘out there’. I’m ready to accept anything, like roleplay, so many of the time I recieve roleplay requests, more simply because I have discovered them fun no matter how unusual or bizarre they are. What excites me are uncommon and weird requests that you wouldn’t really run into. Life’s too boring otherwise”
How does someone react whenever you let them know all you do?
“I have a mixture of emotions. Mostly people react positively due to the way I take a look at it. It’s so different if you’re really shy and timid and quiet about it. It immediately emits this concept of ‘oh they’re not completely ok with it.’
Basically you’re able to become your sex-positive self for your full potential…
“Exactly! That’s where I received my first taste of sex positivity. Dealing with my relationships all night to college I used to be like ‘woah, nobody thinks the way I do, I’ve got to be weird’. But being a webcam model, I realised most people are into something more important, they only feel as if they can’t discuss it.”
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